Fathers Put the “Wow!” on Your Priorities

That moment when a younger person joins the fight we’ve been in for forty years with great passion: Welcome to the fray.

While I think it is wonderful to hear your experience, it is bewildering that you see it as unique when a thousand others have been walking this walk for years.

That is why fathering leadership puts a context to your passion and submission to that particular relational dynamic puts perspective into your passion. A father will focus your passion and recapture misplaced passion. Without a fathering leader speaking boldly into your life, you will become passionate about something less compelling than the purpose of your experiences.

It is often my experience that those first feeling what is the norm for many kingdom leaders expect a “Wow!” where there should be a “What now?” They are offended when you do not “Wow!” for two reasons: 1) They think you are diminishing them when you are welcoming them to the new normal; 2) they think you fail to understand them because you don’t do “Wow!” when they think “Wow!” is appropriate.

Many inheritors walk away from fathering leaders because they demand a “Wow!” response to something as normal as breathing. If the fathering leader starts putting “Wow!” in the wrong places, the emphasis of passion will be distracted and the inheritor will invest passion in feelings and reactions instead of plowing, planting, and producing.

The initial experiences of an intercessor are intense. Multiply that by the factor of metron a kingdom leader walks in every moment of every day.

When a father is preparing inheritors, he will have them do what he does. They will experience the weight of his anointing. They will be amazed at the initial pressure. If they are submitted to the fathering process, they will feel that pressure and say, “Wow! I don’t know how you do this.”

If the fathering leader invests “Wow!” into their initial feelings instead of training them to endure the process that prepares them for these to be the new norm, the inheritors will seek out peer-level people to maintain the “Wow!” at an infantile level. Then, the inheritor will find the father guilty of failing to appreciate their level of pressure.

I always say, “Cheer up! It is going to get worse.” I always say, “Do not ask me to pray you will escape the battle when I will be praying you will win the battle.”

Listening to the young ones step into new places is a joy for all fathers. We do not feed that level with “Wow!” because we know it is a norm for emerging leaders.

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